My team and I have been having a lot of fun coming up with ideas for things to do virtually so that Pluralist Club members continue to enjoy the benefits of our community. Our normal routine of speakers, trips, events and socialising is carrying on but, inevitably, in a slightly different way to how we are used to.
Uncertainty is the new normal....and it's fine! It’s very weird not to be able to make plans of any kind or to even know when we can start thinking about making plans. We don’t know when this is going to end, how things will seem when it has ended and whether the end will really be the end or the start of another round.
Watching, talking and thinking about the Coronavirus may be absorbing us all, but inevitably home working and meeting cancellations create time (so much less travelling!) and with time there is opportunity to think and plan. To that end, I want to consider the upsides and the unintended - but positive - consequences of the gradual shut down of the world’s normal operations.
As I write this, the coronavirus continues to dominate headlines with the situation changing every few hours. Every day we wonder whether things are going ahead or not, whether people will be able or willing to attend events or meetings, whether we ourselves want to go out and about and risk infection. Some of us have already had to self-isolate and there is a reasonable chance that we will all be doing it in due course.
Do you find it easy to say No? Naturally there are plenty of situations when that is the straightforward answer but we all know how hard it can be in certain circumstances. A close friend or relative is harder to say No to than a stranger. From refusing a second slice of cake to managing our time, learning to say No is one of the most vital skills we need. Here are my top tips:
I don’t literally mean your wife but I do want to ask about your home life. Since reading the Howard Kennedy research into relationship breakdown and the workplace, I’ve been thinking about the impact work has on the private lives of high earners and how success can have such unfortunate consequences.